Love in First Class

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I’m on a plane to Florida right now. My dad fell out of bed and he’s in the hospital. Yesterday on the phone he told me that he loved me, my mom, my brother, his grandkids and my husband very much. He’s 85 years old. I have no idea if he will regain his strength and health.…

Are Coyotes Like Teenagers?

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The coyote was hiding in the shadows of the desert brush. It was early in the morning and I was taking my white poodle, Sophie, out on the lawn to do her duty. All of a sudden, Sophie began to run toward the brush. The coyote began to stealthily move toward my dog. I spotted…

“He Doesn’t Love Me!”

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My former client, through her sobs said, “He doesn’t love me.” She said, “Whenever I ask him to go somewhere, he says no and then just sits around and watches TV.” I asked her if she wanted to change this judgment. She cried, “But, it’s true!” Judgments are projected limiting beliefs. Judgments are the hardest…

Rapid Relationship Remedy

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Hi there, So you’ve just had a disagreement with someone or just a yucky interaction with a child, partner, in-law, boss, parent or friend. (We’ve all had these situations.) They are not fun. Here is a very quick way to transform this situation: Think about the situation and then quickly write down all of the…

A Level 3 Relationship (Be Careful What You Wish For)

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A good friend of mine once related that she considered herself quite spiritually evolved… until she got into a relationship. By herself she was mostly happy, competent and loving, then she would get in a relationship and fall apart. She would become angry, hurt and judgmental toward her partner very quickly! So she dealt with…

Our Fight was Awful

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Hey Wonderful, So you ask: “Do positive, loving, long term relationships actually exist nowadays?” I answer: “Yes, my Sweet. They do. But they are not for the faint of heart.” You ask: “Have Tom and you had any rough times together?” I say: “Of course, my Dearie. EVERY long term relationship has its rough spots!”…

Ask and Receive Can Set You Free

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Pam and I love Ask and Receive. I created this little video (which is also posted on AskandReceive.org) to give just a little taste of this powerful new technique. We created this along with our partner and friend Sandi Radomski, ND, LCSW. When Sandi and I initially came up with it, I was struggling with…

How to Get Him (or Her) to Find You

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In our society we are told a lot of confusing things about relationship. If we don’t have a satisfying relationship it must be because we are doing something wrong. Women especially are told that they need to do certain things to attract a man (and most of these things are to make themselves “attractive”). Men…

Make My Husband a Mensch

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When I first started learning how to counsel couples in the late 1980’s, I took a class from a famous psychiatrist named Richard Fisch, who commented that most couples counseling was “Make my husband a mensch therapy”. In other words, he said, most couples came to therapy to shift a power imbalance in the couple.…