“All you need is love, love. Love is all you need.”

The Beatles

If you are part of a couple, wouldn’t you like to have a more successful, more loving relationship?

Wouldn’t you like to move toward unconditionally loving your partner NOW instead of waiting for decades?

Happy Valentines Day.

There was a study that was done with couples who had been married for 50 years or more and were happy together.

“What was your secret?” asked the interviewer of one couple.

The husband responded, “The first 30 years were rough. After that, things were great between us!”

“But what changed?”, asked the interviewer.

“We stopped trying to change one another, and just accepted each other as he/she was”.

I think most of us who have been in long term relationships can relate both to the desire to change the other (just a few tweaks here and there), as well as the peace that can come once we learn to accept our partners just as they are.

The trick is to speed things up so we don’t have to go through the first 30 years suffering, and head right to the acceptance.

Here is a daily ritual to kick start the happy relationship process. You will probably need to do this for a while before you notice a really big shift, but it will be worth it! Remember loving someone is a discipline that we improve at with practice.

Every morning say a very brief Ask and Receive*:

There is a part of my being that already knows how to heal and release any traumas from my past that are interfering with loving my partner fully just as s/he is.

That part of my being is willing to inform the rest of me now.

It is doing so now with grace and ease.

My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.

Information transfer is now complete.

There is a part of my being that already knows how it is possible to love and accept my partner just as s/he is.

That part of my being is willing to inform the rest of me now.

It is doing so now with grace and ease.

My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.

Information transfer is now complete.

There is a part of my being that already knows how to feel great love and acceptance for my partner just as s/he is.

That part of my being is willing to inform the rest of me now.

It is doing so now with grace and ease.

My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.

Information transfer is now complete.

I hope this helps to add more love into your relationship, especially on Valentines Day!

With Love and Gratitude,

Pam and Tom

* Ask and Receive is a powerful Energy Psychology technique that uses a Higher, wiser part of you to make any change you wish. For more information go to AskAndReceive.org